Let’s talk about your mental chatter and why paying attention to it can be life-changing.
When it comes to your thoughts, the main focus in our world is affirmations, visualizations, and the big stuff—things like, “Use your mind to change that negative thought,” et cetera.
But what people don’t understand is that it’s not just the words you say to yourself or the visions you hold. It’s that moment to moment responsibility that you have to pay attention to your state of mind.
When you catch yourself in the itty-bitty shitty committee, step back and say, “Well, wait a second. Where am I right now? Hello! I don’t want to be listening to the itty-bitty committee. And if I do listen to the itty-bitty committee, I know where I’m gonna be 10 seconds from now. I’m gonna be down that rabbit hole of negativity.”
I want you to realize that you can actually change your reality by changing one small action.
Last time I shared a story about my students and how I asked them to be aware of their thoughts. The moment I invited them to come up off their mind, stop letting it run its programs automatically, and start observing it, they suddenly became responsible for their mind. And then, they had choices that they didn’t have before.
How to get started
Observe your mind. Kind of stand back, and pay attention to the kinds of chatter that are going on inside. It might be beliefs, judgments, blames, happiness, et cetera. Whatever it happens to be, observe it.
Rather than listening to the itty bitty shitty committee, maybe you’ll make a decision similar to, “I’m going to be kinder to myself.”
Along with that might come thoughts and decisions such as:
- I’m going to take a moment for a nice coffee.
- I’m going to take a moment for a nice bath.
- I’m going to read a chapter in my book that is important to me.
- I’m going to take a moment for me.
The action of loving yourself, as I call it, translates out into greater patience and compassion in the world, which then translates into feeling great within yourself, which then affects every relationship and every person you touch. It happens because suddenly, you listen better, you communicate more clearly, et cetera.
The simple act of observing your thoughts leads to responsibility for them. From that point on, you’re not only aware that we all create the lives we live, but you also start consciously creating the life you want rather than letting your subconscious create what it’s been programmed to create.
Some Helpful Options
- There are many articles on this blog with free tips and information to help you on your journey to living a mindful life.
- If you prefer a more concentrated self-help version, check out my book: Same Shit Different Day
- If you’d like some one-on-one help, click here: Discovery Session