“It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.”
-Babe Ruth
I frequently talk about how fast change happens for clients when they get rid of a limiting belief. However, there are times when the change is slower.
While it’s true that most of my clients have rapid and permanent positive changes, others take a while.
And that’s okay.
Why Some People Have Instant Change and Others Don’t
There are three main reasons:
- It takes a while to find the limiting belief
- The person isn’t ready to give up the “benefits” of the limiting belief
- The beliefs causing the issue are core beliefs formed from significant abuse, neglect, or trauma
Finding The Limiting Belief
The internal programs you run are similar to those a computer runs. The difference is that there isn’t a directory we can quickly look at that prints out your personal programs. That makes it harder to identify the ones causing the “output” you don’t want.
Most of the time, your history makes the program visible. Sometimes, it’s not as clear-cut. And occasionally, there’s more than one program leading to the same output.
Hanging On Instead of Letting Go
Every limiting belief is there for a reason. You either get (or got) something out of that belief, or it wouldn’t be in place.
Many times, any positive results have long since passed. But sometimes, there’s still active benefit even while the belief causes limits.
For example, if you’re someone who runs a drama program to avoid boredom, interacting with a person who is challenging when not busy, or taking personal responsibility, the drama is useful to you in those situations.
It might also be the reason you’re struggling at work or failing to connect at a level of real meaning with others.
However, until you have other skills to handle the situations where the drama is used to escape, you might continue to pick a limiting behavior even when you know the value of letting it go.
Core Beliefs
Every belief you have impacts your life on some level. However, some of them are more far-reaching than others.
If your past includes significant trauma, abuse, or neglect, and especially if those things happened when you were less than ten years old, the core beliefs you formed as a result of those experiences might take longer to address.
There might also be more limiting beliefs for you to address than someone without your experiences.
It might take longer in some cases, but real and lasting change can happen.
In a world where it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, uncertain of your purpose, and sometimes even powerless to create the future you want, you don’t have to go it alone.
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