Let’s play a game, okay? I’ll ask questions and you give answers. It can be the first thing that pops into your head or you can take time to think about it.
If you could be anyone, who would you be?
That’s a fun question, and it’s always interesting to hear the answers. Some people answer with celebrities, prominent people in history, family members, mentors, or friends.
There is no wrong answer.
Once you have your own answer, I have another question for you.
Why do you want to be that person?
This question takes a little more thought. It requires that you define the things the other person has that you want, the traits you admire, and the aspects of life you think they get right. It makes you aware of the differences between you and the other person.
What’s stopping you?
This is the question that typically causes a little nervousness and makes the game feel less fun for a lot of people. But for me, it’s the most exciting question. Let me explain.
I work with clients and many of them feel stuck in their lives or else unhappy with their current situation. When we work together, it’s my job to help them find the answer to the question of, “What’s stopping you?”
I find it exciting because once we have the answer, we can do something about it.
Sometimes people realize they don’t actually want to be the person they named. Instead, they learn what they really want, admire, and consider success.
But most of the time, the answer to, “What’s stopping you?” leads people closer to the things they want, admire, and imagine when they picture success.
If they’re willing to do a few things, eventually their answer to the first question changes.
They have more of what they want in life. The traits they admired in the other person are now traits they have in their own life. And instead of feeling like they’ll never be enough, they feel like they get life right.
In only three questions, their life is transformed.
Even though it’s simple, that process isn’t always easy to figure out on your own. It took me years to work through it for myself. However, today I can honestly say that of everyone I might choose to be, I’d be me.
I don’t mean that in a “I’m better than everyone else” kind of way. I know some wonderful and delightful people.
But when it comes to why I like them, I’m free to create the same level of abundance, success, and strength of character in my life. So, even though I admire and love them, I’m happy being me.
Thankfully, my clients don’t have to make the mistakes I did or go through the trial and error it took for me to have the life of my dreams. Many of them notice significant changes in a single session while others notice change but require a handful of sessions to work through what’s stopping them from living the life they want.
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If your answers to the above questions left you feeling intrigued about what’s stopping you, I encourage you to dig deeper into your answers and find ways to build more of what you want into your life.
Don’t feel bad if you can’t figure it out right away. Most people can’t. The things that stop us are often so familiar that we can’t see them even though they’ve probably been there most of our lives.
You can keep reading through my blog for more answers or check out my book, Same Shit Different Day, for a more practical approach.
If neither option appeals to you and you’re ready to get to (and transform) what’s stopping you, why not invest in a discovery session: Get your 30-minute discovery session where you’ll learn life-changing tools for less stress, more flow, and finding your true purpose.