I have a client you might relate to.
When I met Sam, she was constantly at odds with her boss and the people she worked with because nothing was ever “right” and no one seemed to be working with her.
As a result, she wasn’t very happy or hopeful about her position with the company even though it was doing well financially.
There was an anxiety to Sam that was almost palpable. She was obviously uptight, serious, nervous, and stressed… all the time.
Sam and I did a Mindful Change process, and the next time I saw her, she was relaxed, outgoing, and smiling. All the stress had been lifted from her shoulders and was replaced by a happy, more outgoing and social person.
You see, Sam had internal beliefs that she wasn’t worthy of having her ideas heard and implemented, and she silently worried that others saw her as a bad person. Those beliefs kept her feeling victimized and unable to put her ideas in place.
After our session, those beliefs were gone. Sam took charge of her life and talked to her boss, which set things moving in a direction she had always known they needed to go. Instead of complaining about it and feeling victimized by work, she found or created solutions.
As a result, the business started thriving in a way it hadn’t before. Sam hired an assistant to increase her productivity, and that led to her being able to hire someone else to work with her so she didn’t have to travel so much.
Because of her improved self-worth, Sam and her boss created a more respectful relationship. He listened to her ideas and allowed her to implement them while she had the trust in herself to follow through and bring her ideas to life.
Sam thought her workplace was a mess, but when she changed, so did her situation.
It often feels like our problems exist outside of us — it’s our difficult boss, irritating co-workers, the economy, etc. But most of the time, it’s actually a hidden belief we hold about ourselves that causes behavior that sets up the situations we don’t like.
If we change or get rid of those beliefs, we change our lives.
If you can’t find the beliefs that are holding you back or you don’t know how to transform them so they work for you, send me an email at heather@mindfulchange.com or call me at 613.601.1083, and we’ll set up a 30-minute discovery session.
Next time we’ll talk about family relationships.
Here’s a quote I thought you might like.
“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
~C. JoyBell C.