Have you ever wondered what’s up with drama? It seems like it’s everywhere!
Maybe it’s the co-worker or family member that seems to stir up trouble as though they enjoy it. Maybe it’s an unending stream of bad luck that happens to very talented and positive people.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I see drama unfolding and find it hard to look away. It’s like a saucy TV show where you can’t wait to see what’s next even though you know it’s just going to be trouble for the actors.
The problem is, in real life, drama isn’t fun. It’s stressful, frustrating, and it makes for misery and trouble. I know you don’t want that in your life, but why does it show up in anyone’s life? Do some people ask for it?
Not exactly … not consciously, at least. But you, I, and everyone else has a story we run in our head. That story describes who we are and how our lives work. It’s a story we believe so intensely that we think the story is who we are.
That’s how a very talented person ends up with a continuous string of drama. The story they have of themselves is one about a victim. They try to think positive thoughts, but they seemingly can’t help picturing a victim’s story. They talk about it, stew on it, focus on it.
They want to get rid of the drama, to use the law of attraction to bring good things to them, but shit happens anyway because the story they believe is that they’re a victim.
Without using mindful change to create a different story, people drag past patterns into every new experience … they create the same story with different characters.
The story is changeable but, until it changes, there are likely to be issues such as abusive or inattentive friends, lack of respect, poor family relationships, irresponsibility, people who take advantage of or victimize others, etc.
What story are you dragging with you?
Maybe you can really relate to the above, or maybe most of the drama you experience seems a lot more external. You don’t have a string of bad luck following you around; you just have a really annoying coworker or family member.
In many ways, that person is still there because of the story you believe about yourself. It’s perfectly okay to not have people like that in your life and to not buy into the drama they love to create.
You really can’t do anything to stop the person causing the drama, but that doesn’t mean that you have to let it bother you, either.
Next time drama is unfolding, instead of using precious energy or letting a drama-seeker’s dark cloud smother your sunshine, stop and think about these 2 things:
- The drama king or queen will replace you with a more willing character if you stop participating in their story. Don’t believe me? Look at their drama-littered past and all the people they’ve involved in their story who aren’t there today. Are you the kind of person who prioritizes people like this, thereby keeping you in their storyline?
- Ask yourself how you’re going to explain that you chose to spend time and energy with a person who doesn’t care about you and only wants you as a character in their drama instead of giving that time, energy, and emotion to the love of your life.
The decision to change is easy, but I know the ‘doing’ part is a lot harder. That’s why I practice Mindful Change, offer a 30-minute discovery session, and am always here for you.
We’re all creators of our world, and we’re able to change our world by using our minds to change our stories. When your personal story and beliefs about yourself match your wants and desires, your life can take you to levels of happiness and success that used to seem just out of reach.
If you want more information about how that might work for you, send me an email at heather@mindfulchange.com or call me at 613.601.1083, and we’ll set up a 30-minute discovery session.
I know it’s sometimes a little scary to work with someone new, but here’s what another client had to say about me:
“I came to see Heather with tons of baggage from my past which was hindering my present. I never thought I could make such a huge turn for the best in so little time after seeing her. Thanks to her method and time with me, in just one day I came to powerful realizations which transformed my life and allowed me to rid myself of all of my anxiety and fear; I gained a sense of calm and confidence that has allowed me to move on to great horizons.” ~M.M., Osteopath
Next time I post, I’ll share something that used to scare the crap out of me. I’m curious to see if you feel the same about it.
And now, I leave you with the quote of the week:
“When you come from a place of love, drama, hardship, and
struggle cease to exist.”
~Heather Elliott
Take care until next time!
Heather